Be beautiful.
Be smart (but not too. . .).
Be supportive.
Be thin.
Be a wife. Be a girlfriend. Be a mother.
Be everything.
But not enough. It won’t be enough, not for him.
Let it be stipulated that not every man cheats. Let it be stipulated that women cheat. Let it be stipulated that monogamy is not for everyone.
Let it be further stipulated that athletes and politicians and corporate moguls and celebrities are not like the rest of us.
Nonetheless.
I look at these everything-women and their caddish men and think Women are fucked.
Told constantly by magazine writers and self-help authors and media representations and advertisements and sexperts that if women would only lose the weight and change the hair and brighten the smile and maybe engage in a little bo-nip-tuck-tox (and, of course, shave/wax/defoliate one’s nether and whatever other regions) you too could earn yourself The Man of Your Dreams™, we are confronted with the scenario in which said Man simply decides that one is nowhere near enough.
I know: media representations are bullshit, and my rational feminist brain tells me that relationships are complex and compatibility runs far deeper than the skin.
Nonetheless.
This plain and single woman cannot rid herself of the enduring thought that if only she’d lose five pounds and/or get in better shape and get her teeth and eyes fixed then maybe, just maybe, she could be worth dating.
Irrational, yes. Pathetic, yes. A handy way to avoid addressing the real reasons I don’t date—yes, absolutely, yes.
Nonetheless.
The thought remains.
As does the apparent evidence that whatever fixes one enacts won’t ever be enough.
Fucked, all around.
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